I have been thinking about mothering a lot lately. Since I am really in the thick of things with young kids, I think I am going to post regularly about my thoughts on mothering.
For many years, I have been working on my energy. Sometimes I am better at it that other times. Basically, it boils down to me controlling how much energy I am going to give a situation. So, my kid spills milk, I can choose whether to freak out, or just teach him how to clean it up. Either way, it is basically going to take the same amount of time, but they have very different outcomes. If you know my kids, you know that they both have a lot of energy! Eli is almost constantly running, making noise, making messes. Sophie wakes up every morning and looks at all the calendars she has collected and lets me know what her plans are for the day. She is always planning, negotiating, scheming. Sometimes I can get really caught up in all of this and get frustrated and exhausted. One day, I was scrolling through instagram and an artist who I follow had some thoughts that really connected with me. Her instagram name is is tessaleeart and you should follow her. She has some beautiful thoughts on motherhood. Anyway, she said "they fill me up. They don't empty me. They give to me. They don't take from me." I know that our thoughts are so powerful and saying these sentences really helps to change my perspective. Thinking of my kids' energies in a positive way can change my perspective as well. Instead of thinking "My kids are so exhausting!" I try to think "Eli brings so much happiness to our home! I am so thankful his body can run and jump and play!" "Sophie is such a determined child! She is a great planner and go-getter! She is so great at taking charge and getting things done! These skills will really help her throughout her life!"
Please, tell me! What thoughts have you had on motherhood lately???!!!